A very nice thing happened today

It is Shab e barat. For which my mother’s maid took a ten day leave, my friend’s maid took a ten day leave, my mother-in-law’s maid took a three day leave.

Sakila, my maid, came on time this morning. While she was quietly going about doing her business my mother called.

“Has Sakila come?”

“Yeah mom. Why?”

“Its Shab e barat today. She didn’t take an off?”

“No. She didn’t.”

“You should’ve asked her to take an off na? You gave your driver an off on Rakhi.”

“Ma, I didn’t remember it was Shab e barat. And she always tells me when she needs an off.”

And then obviously all my reasoning was rather inconsequential,, as it always is to a mother, and after much ranting by my mother about her maid taking ten days off she thankfully realized she had to make that chicken curry. So we ended the conversation.

I turned to Sakila. Who had half disappeared under the coffee table to clean it.

“Isn’t it Shab e barat today? ”

Head popped out from under the table “Yes.”

“Why didn’t you take an off? It’s a festival no? For you?”

“Yeah.”

“Then? You should’ve asked me once. I don’t remember all the time no?”

The big bright smile of hers comes out. “But I am not going anywhere else to work today. Just your place. I like coming to work here.”

I wanted to hug her. And tell her I love her. And that I heart her.

Instead I ran to my bedroom and danced a little jig.

Now tell me, has this ever happened to you?

Living like quite the queen

An excerpt from a short conversation with my colleague (V) this morning-

Me: Do you drive on your own?

V: Yeah yeah. Its such a small distance and its no big deal at all…

Me: I should learn driving too you know …

V: But you have a driver….

Me: Yes! But if he goes on leave then I am completely handicapped no? I have never taken public transport here. How will I get to office? I don’t even know where to get a rickshaw from!

V: Queen you are. Just go on the weekends and start driving.

My thoughts thereafter-

I have two maids. TWO. One cooks and the other cleans. They are trustworthy. I can leave my house keys to them. They come, do their job and leave.

I also have a car (a big one) and a driver. I just have to give him a tinkle for him to drive up to the portico, open the door, smile and greet me and make small talk with me once in a while when he is driving me around.

I have a sizeable house. With good furniture, an open kitchen. I have decorated it just the way I have always wanted to.

So yes, in all I live quite like the queen.

But then, I have grown up in a house where we have never had maids. I have seen my mother washing, scrubbing, ironing, cleaning and keeping her job everyday just because my Dad could have his privacy. I have traveled in public transport all my life. My parents never had a car. So I went to school in a public bus, traveled to work for one and half hours (one way) in a bus and so on. I did not know the comfort of having a  car at your disposal, someone to drive you around, to have the AC on and listen to some music or read as you choose to.  I have also never lived in a big house and never had a room of my own.

So now, at 25 and after being married I see myself having all those things that my mother earned for herself at 51. She now has a car, a driver and a maid working for her. She doesn’t have the loving husband but she has resigned herself to that.

And yes, even if I am living like a queen, I am aware of the flip side. I treasure every little thing I have today because I have done without the same things for a very long time.

However, I will learn driving. Because if I don’t then I’ll be quite screwed the day my driver takes a leave.

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